You’re allowed to change your mind.
The things you wanted when you were 18 don’t need to be the same as the things you want when you’re 38, 58, etc. Perhaps you’ve come to the realization that owning the latest iPhone, wearing only “name-brand” clothing and following the latest celebrity gossip won’t make you happier. Maybe you’ve figured out the career you’ve been pursuing in pharmacy is really your parent’s dream and not your own. Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter.
You’re allowed, if not expected, to grow. As you get older, you’ll change. Your body will change. You’ll learn more. You may even change your core values or outlook on life. And that is completely and totally acceptable.
I mean… If you never matured, there’s a good chance you’d still be complaining about that girl in high school who stole your boyfriend or yell at your mom for asking what you’re doing this weekend… Because hormones.
You’re allowed to change. The people in your life will change. The only constant in life is change. Adapting to it will only suit you better in the long run.
Repeat: you are allowed to change your mind.
No longer want kids? Don’t have them. Want them? Have them. Marriage? It’s completely up to you. Failed marriage? Shit happens. Hate the job you once loved? Do something else.
Don’t be trapped by the ideals you outgrew. You don’t have to define yourself by the same standards which you did as a child, last year, or even yesterday.
Maybe you come across new information which completely debunks a belief you’ve held for years (newsflash; I totally believed that men had one less rib than women for like 20 years), or maybe, you’ve finally realized you deserve to be happy.
It doesn’t matter. Because at the end of the day, it’s your life to live. You have the right to be you. To believe what you believe. To want what you want. And to feel what you feel.
You know you best. So listen to yourself. Listen to your body. Trust yourself. And realize it’s okay to deviate.
You have the right to change your mind.
Have YOU had a change of heart? Or have you stayed on the same path for years? I’d love to hear your story in the comments below.